Dear Mum, I was 7 when I discovered that you were fat, ugly and horrible. Up until that point I had believed that you were beautiful - in every sense of the word. I remember flicking through old photo albums and staring at pictures of you standing on the deck of a boat.
In relationships, people tend to show love to a partner in the way they'd personally most like to receive it. For example, those of us who need a big bear hug when we're stressed might assume our partners would want the same.